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Which jewels to keep and which ones to sell?

“If you want to be happy, forget what is impossible to change.”

Alejandro Jodorowsky

In the jewelry box, in the boxes, as in the bottom of drawers, we almost all have the habit of “hiding” the jewels and things that remind us of someone – and also the person we used to be and that we no longer want to be.

It is a way of keeping away the memories that hurt us when we have not yet found the strength to part with them because we are not yet ready to turn the page and let them go: otherwise, we would have gotten rid of all those memorabilia for some time. 

Like all objects you have at home, jewelry also has the power to influence your mood, because everything you own has a piece of your experience. It is incredible how the memory of an event can suddenly resurface, at the mere sight of an object that you did not even remember you had.

How many times has it happened to you to find a photo, a greeting card, a dress or a jewel that you had even forgotten to have, and immediately the memory went automatically to a person from your past, to a happy or painful moment, triggering an immediate emotional reaction?

Keeping with us the objects that we do not use or that we do not want under our eyes every day, is a very common fact, even when these things are linked to unpleasant memories: we put them away, hiding them, in less accessible places but still, we keep them.

Thus, drawers, boxes and jewelry boxes become the storehouse of the emotional space of memories that we would like to forget, without however being able to let go of the objects that embody them.

Why can’t you let go of the jewels that made you suffer?

This happens because what binds you to a jewel is a sentimental value, which however has nothing to do with your current happiness, if you think about it.

A jewel that represents a moment of the past, is always linked to the memory of the person who gave it to you.

You have to get to a point where you can separate the attachment of memory from the melancholy or bitterness that the jewel triggers every time you see it, because the past is a bond that brings emotions that, for better or for worse, prevent you. to move forward and plan your future.

Because it is true that melancholy is the happiness of being sad.

And every time you look, pick up or wear that jewel, somehow you stay in the past. Indeed, even the very awareness of still possessing it is an impediment to moving forward.

Which jewels bring the most unhappiness into your present life?

The melancholy of a bond that has broken due to bereavement or the bitterness of a relationship that ended due to a betrayal immediately lives in the most powerful symbols of the past union, such as engagement rings, diamond jewelry and luxury watches: they are all precious objects that testify to a forever that did not last so long and that feed on your positive energies, giving you back passivity.

A good way to get rid of jewelry that does not emanate joy.

As the Konmari method by Marie Kondo, author of the book The magical power of tidying up, suggests, to be happy and aspire to a rebirth we must keep only the objects that emanate joy, and greet with gratitude all the others who have accompanied us in our life anyway. passed, before we get rid of it.

The Konmari method follows a simple procedure to understand which jewels to keep and which ones to sell:

  • collect all your jewels in one place, if for example you keep them in different places in the house;
  • divide your jewels into categories: rings, bracelets, necklaces, watches etc;
  • identifies jewels with imperfections, such as missing pieces or stones, non-working watches. These can be repaired and sold as well;
  • ttouch your jewels one by one: this gesture allows you to understand if they are objects that emanate joy or if they give off negative emotions. However high the sentimental value of your valuables may be, it does not always rhymes with joy;
  • Therefore separate the jewels that give you joy from those that do not make you feel good and decide their fate, whether to give them or sell them.

What to do with objects that have sentimental value and that you no longer love

What to do with inherited jewels or those that have a sentimental value for you but no longer make you happy?

Well, Marie Kondo’s method is very intuitive in this regard and is not just about tidying up your objects but also about the sense of gratitude you feel for them: if they no longer bring joy to your life or are not an added value, thank them and leave them to go.

Jewelery given away: what to do if they no longer make you happy?

The joy of the gift exists the moment it is given.

So even if a jewel represented a generous and important gift, its purpose was achieved when it was given to you. Therefore, you have no reason, perhaps out of guilt, to remain tied to an object just because it was given to you. If the jewel received as a gift no longer brings you joy, it is time to let it go.

Tidy up the jewelry you want to keep with you

As with all the things you have at home, even the jewels deserve to be kept in order, if only for the reason of finding them more easily when you need them.

Try to keep the jewelry you wear often or the ones that bring you more joy just to see them more close at hand.

In addition to the jewel box with compartments, you can use jewelry racks to display your necklaces and bracelets, without forgetting to use boxes without lids to put in a drawer to have an immediate glance on all your jewels, without ever forgetting one.